THE ADVICE SISTERS® E-NEWS, by Alison Blackman Dunham aka. “Advice Sister Alison”) JULY, 2005, ISSUE #3
2. News about Town
3. Get the Look “How to Exfoliate” by Paula Moynahan M.D., Practice Director, Skinklinic
4. Relationship Advice Tip for Summer: Keep Your Cool!
5. Shopping Tip – The Thrill of Thrifting
6. Beauty Tip-make a Bourjois-style Blush Cake
7. The AdviceSisters Book Club – – Write It Right by Dawn Josephson and Lauren Hidden & How To Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis by Gay Courter & Pat Gaudette
1. WHAT’S NEW FROM THE ADVICE SISTERS?
Summer is a time to be outdoors, to relax, and enjoy the sun (but not too much of it). The Advice Sisters Summer 2005 What Works Beauty review is a whopping three pages with reviews of literally hundreds of new products from more than 100 different companies to suit every budget, interest and personality. PAGE ONE at http://www.advicesisters.net/whatworkscol3.html features: sun care & facial products gift suggestions, little helpers, blushers and foundations. PAGE TWO features products for eyes, bath & body bonanza, fabulous fragrances, and products for lips. PAGE THREE features nail products, hair products, “body bling” and our extensive, exclusive BUYING GUIDE!
Have you ever worried that you might be “tracked” in a job or career you don’t like? Are you UNDERemployed, and hating it? Read the latest Ask Alison – Managing Your Life & Career column and get a view on how to handle this situation at http://www.advicesisters.net/askalison/askalison.html
As I mentioned in the last issue of this Enews (Spring, 2005), I recently started a blog at; http://askalisonadvicesistersblog.blogspot.com/. While I confess that I haven’t posted regularly, the posts are building up. You will find my comments about what’s happening in my own life, along with other issues as they occur to me. I’d love to know what you think of the blog, and hope you will visit, and sign the guest book and leave your comments! *obviously if you are reading this online at the blogger.com site, you’ve found me. But if you would like your own, personal copy sent in full formatting and color to your in-box bi-monthly, please go to http://www.advicesisters.net and click on Contact Us or ENews in the left hand navigation column. Be sure to fill out the form, completely.
2. NEWS ABOUT TOWN Summer, 2005
Essie Cruise Collection – In May, I was invited to the launch of Essie’s beautiful ” nail polishes called the “Cruise Collection” on (what else?) the beautiful cruise ship Carnival Legend. Jennifer de la Cruz, Director of Public Relations for Carnival Cruise Lines, welcomed the 150+ guests, followed by an announcement of the joint venture between CLIA and Essie from Terry Dale, President and CEO of CLIA. I was surprised and delighted to learn that there really is an “Essie” behind the fabulous nail products. Essie Weingarten herself introduced the Cruise Collection and told us that the six new nail colors would be perfect for a cruise vacation or fun in the sun. My favorites are “Cruise Control,” a warm tulip pink, and “Fun Ship,” a soft pinky-red with a hint of gold. There’s also a bright pink, a soft fuchsia, a glittery orange, and a shimmery raspberry. This collection will be carried in salons, spas and specialty stores on cruise ships and on land. While some guests were getting mini-manicures with colors from the new Cruise Collection, I enjoyed drinks and delicious Hors D’oeuvres, and then a walk around the Carnival Legend’s beautiful decks. Although we didn’t leave the dock, I truly felt as if I’d taken a mini holiday.
*Essie: http://www.essie.com/ or call: 800-232-1155 for product and store information. Cruise Lines International Association (CLIA) is a nonprofit cruise industry marketing organization of the 19 leading cruise lines. Visit: www.cruising.org.
REVIEW – Skinklinic – REVIEW – Skinklinic – While preparing the summer What Works column, I was introduced to some products from Skinklinic and was so intrigued I visited the New York facility in person. It is tucked discreetly away on 61st Street, just off Fifth Avenue and Central Park, in a far corner of a large courtyard with a reflecting pool near the entrance. But Skinklinic is not your average spa or salon. It is a hybrid clinic/salon/spa that represents a new trend in beauty, offering advanced cosmetic dermatology techniques delivered by medically trained skin practitioners (nurses, nurse practitioners, and dermatologists) who administer skin treatments in private, spacious rooms designed to offer a serene, minimalist environment. I was a bit surprised to see men as well as women in all age categories, too.
Skinklinic doesn’t assume that everyone’s skin is the same. When you arrive, you are given a multi-page questionnaire as you would in a doctor’s office. If you are a new client, you will get a Skinscan, which is a thorough analysis of your skin as it currently appears through an advanced imaging system. You place your head on a chin rest on the desktop machine, which looks a bit like the type used in opthalmologists offices to look at your eyes. In minutes, this amazing machine looks beneath the surface of your skin to tell reveal what condition your skin is really in, with information you can’t see with the naked eye, including enlarged pores, sun damage, wrinkles, and spots. You will then get a color print-out with the various trouble spots color coded exactly as they appear on your face! The procedure is fast and painless but it is quite shocking to see your skin as it really is. The various conditions will be explained to you and, based on what the skinscan shows, and your own skincare goals and budget (treatments can be pricey), your skin practitioner will create a “skinscription,” a plan of treatments and products that, over time, will improve your skin. The treatments include glycolic and beta treatments, microdermabrasion, and even BOTOX therapy and fillers such as Restalyne.
A microdermabrasion treatment was suggested for my skin. While this is a quick treatment that could easily be done on a lunch hour, I worried that it might leave my skin red and irritated. My Skin Practitioner explained that unlike at-home scrubs that may contain unevenly sized crystals and therefore leave the skin surface raw and bumpy, this treatment would be using special, uniformly-sized, smooth aluminum oxide crystals that polish the skin, removing dead skin cells and surface roughness. Of course it helps it helps when the person doing the microdermabrasion is an expert! When I looked in the mirror I could honestly see visible results. My skin was soft, clear and glowing! I didn’t even bother to apply powder or foundation but that evening and for several weeks afterwards, people commented on how great my skin looked — and it really did! Treatments at Skinklinic could really be habit forming but if so, it’s a good thing. After my treatment is was handed a printed card with my own, personal, skinscription” including suggested future treatments and products that I could use at home. I was never pressured to purchase anything, but if you are going to invest in treatments, maintaining the effects at home makes sense. Skinklinic has it’s own line called Skinklinic RESULTS — 21 cleansers, moisturizers, toners, and specialty items divided into three distinct categories: essentials that increase skin?s performance and vitality, replacements for things that time and sun took away, and removals that take away imperfections. A few, including a sun screen, are reviewed in my Advice Sisters Summer 2005 What Works Beauty review . For tips on exfoliating, read on
3. GET THE LOOK: How To Exfoliate by Paula Moynahan M.D., Practice Director, Skinklinic
Exfoliation of face and body, when done correctly, helps to improve the texture, color and appearance of your skin, It is also an essential step prior to applying any kind of self-tanner, popular during the summer months (and beyond). If you are going to exfoliate, it is important to know your skin type so you can choose a treatment that is appropriate for your skin’s specific needs. If you aren’t sure what your skin type is, consider having your skin type properly evaluated. Skinklinic offers an advanced imaging system called skinscan that assess skin conditions such as bacteria, pores and spots. *Alison’s Note: If you can’t make it to skinklinic, here is a brief description of major skin types: Normal skin is not too oily or dry and blemishes are uncommon. It is firm and smooth with small pores and a healthy appearance. Oily skin is often shiny and coarse in texture and may have recurring blackheads and enlarged pores. It may also have patches of flakiness around the nose where excess oils have dried. Sensitive skin may have broken capillaries, and vessels beneath the surface of the skin that distinguish this skin type. Sensitive skin should not be over stimulated because it is extremely sensitive. Dry skin may occur due to sun exposure and aging. It loses its ability to produce moisture and natural oils. Though it may look smooth with fine pores and few blackheads or blemishes, dry skin may also have a tight, leathery appearance. Combination skin is easy to see — it has an oily T-zone across the forehead, nose and chin, but a normal to dry area around the cheeks and throat. Another combination pattern you may see is skin that is oily along the chin, jaw line and at the temples, but normal to dry skin everywhere else. Acne- prone skin is usually oily and distinguished by blackheads and pimples. Acne is not just an affliction of young people , it can develop in men and women at any age. Mature Skin- A loose crepey, appearance, and lnes distinguish this skin type. which is due to aging processes. Cells don’t regenerate quickly. Skin loses its elasticity.
Choose the right exfoliator: A natural fruit acid, like a glycolic, works to uncover smoother, softer, more glowing skin (the perfect base for any application). Glycolic acid helps dissolve the “glue” that holds the skin cells together and this leads to exfoliation. This type of natural skin exfoliator can be used for the face and all over the body. Glycolic products will help you complement the professional treatments you receive or to give you a quick fix, at home. skinklinic features several different products including three strengths of Glycolic (1, 2, 3,) a body softener, and supers wipes . Another option is the type of microdermabrasion treatment I described, above. This uses smooth aluminum oxide crystals that polish the skin, removing dead skin cells and surface roughness. Removing undesirable dead skin allows for more effective absorption of your moisturizer and primes your body for self-tanners.
* Alison’s Note: Home exfoliation is coming into it’s own, and glycolics, along with microdermabrasion kits and scrubs are readily available these days. While Skinklinic believes that natural skin exfoliator such as glycolic products work best, you may want to try an at-home machine or scrub. If you do, please note that you must know your skin type, and select products that can do the most good, without doing a great deal of damage to your skin. Select only products that appear to have small, uniform pieces of material that help to exfoliate gently. Anything that feels harsh and irritating when you gently massage it on your skin (eg. The back of your hand) is going to feel the same way on other parts of your body! And, harsh scrubbing is the surest way to sabotage your results. Be very careful when exfoliating face or body. Rub for only 20-30 seconds and massage that product onto your skin very, very gently, with a uniform, circular motion. Be aware that while they might appear to work faster and more effectively, ragged loofas or a super-scratchy body scrub can cause skin trauma, irritation, and flare acne or folliculitis. It is better to do less exfoliation than to end up with red, raw, skin!
Skinklinic was founded in September 2001, offering an integrated system of medically-directed treatments and products that provide measurable, visible benefits, provided in a low-key, spa-like setting. Medically-trained Skin Practitioners, who are also registered nurses, nurse practitioners, physician assistants, and MDs, are skilled in both the art and the science of treating skin. Skinklinic is privately held and headquartered in New York City. Visit: or in person: NEW YORK – 800b 5th Avenue NYC/ 212 521 3100 LAS VEGAS – Mandalay Place, Suite 111, 3930 Las Vegas Blvd. South, Las Vegas, NV/ 702 632 3300 GREENWICH – 44-48 West Putnam Avenue, Greenwich, CT/ 203 622 5100
4. RELATIONSHIP ADVICE TIP FOR SUMMER: Keep Your Cool:
Avoid synthetic fabrics or too-tight clothes and wear natural fabrics that breathe, and that are appropriate for the temperature (eg. cotton, tencel, linen, silk, wool). Wear layers and remove them as necessary.
Use an antiperspirant, not just under your arms but lightly sprayed on the palms of your hands (if you tend to sweat there). Re-apply as necessary.
Breathe deeply. Deep, cleansing breaths will calm you and automatically relax your body.
Smile. Force your face into a big grin. Your smile will remain for a few seconds–at least long enough to get you in the mood to look and feel friendly and confident.
Focus on the present. Don’t worry about what will happen next. Nothing shows confidence like being prepared, especially if you are facing a challenge such as making a presentation or going on a job interview.
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5. SHOPPING TIP – The Thrill of the Thrifting:
With the right attitude, a little savvy, and a lot of patience, you never know what kind of treasure you may score in a thrift shop! Here are some tips if you’re ready to give thrifting a try. First, resist the urge to go hunting for bargains when you’re very hungry, tired, or in need at the last minute, because you will end up making bad decisions. Take an energy bar or a bag of trail mix or other high-energy snack food, and bring a bottle of water. Take breaks or you will burn out quickly.
Do not expect solicitous sales help, restrooms, cafes, customer service, or even dressing room. If you are going to try clothes on, wear a body suit or be prepared to be in public in your underwear, or take an educated guess as to whether something will fit you. Be prepared to return the items if they don’t fit, assuming you can return them at all.
Expect a higher-than-average number of damaged goods. Items will be sold “as is” which means you pick up the tab for cleaning and tailoring. Look carefully for damages (stains, holes and tears, missing buttons or broken zippers). Never assume a garment is a regular size. You may be holding a mismarked garment or an irregular. Thrift shops do not clean donated items, so you will have to clean them before you wear your new items.
Know what the return policy is before you buy. Some shops may have restrictions or mark items final sale. If you don’t love it, don’t buy it because you may not be able to return it.
If you are tempted to purchase electronic items, be aware that most are there because they are obsolete, or have malfunctioned. Also remember that it is sometimes hard to get servicing for older electronics, and the parts and labor may be more costly than for newer equipment. This is one area where you might be better off buying new. Test electronic items in the store before you buy. If you buy used, ask if there is still be a valid warranty on the product and be sure to get any instruction guides that go with the item.
Be sure to have fun sifting through the junk to find the jewels and have patience! If your search is not successful one day, it may be, next time.” You will live to shop another day
*from: You Are The Product – How To Sell Yourself to Employers, by Alison Blackman Dunham http://www.advicesisters.net/ebooks3.html
6. BEAUTY TIP: Do-It-Yourself Project: Bourjois-Style Makeup Cakes:
Ingredients: I tablespoons of talc, 1 tablespoon of mother-of-pearl, 1 tablespoon of pink pigment, 250 ml. of water, 1 drop of rose perfume (optional)
In a mixing bowl, mix the talc, mother-of-pearl and pigments until you obtain an even, colored powder. Add the water gradually, mixing with a whisk until the mixture is smooth and lump-free. Line a small, round blush-sized mold with a square of damp muslin. Put a teaspoon of mixture into the round moldcould, pack down using a stamp that is the same size and shape (little round block). Remove the excess mixture with your finger if necessary. Put the cakes in the over and bake for 50 minutes at 140 degrees centigrade (thermometer 4) Take the cakes out of the oven, and let them cool. After they have completely cooled, your cheeks can enjoy them right away! If you’re not up to making your own, shop for Bourjois Cosmetics at: www.sephora.com
7. THE ADVICE SISTERS BOOK CLUB
Write it Right by Dawn Josephson and Lauren Hidden
Text messaging, instant messaging, and Email has contributed to quick communication in our society. We are writing something all the time, from thank-you notes to project reports, and beyond. Everyone does it but few do it well. And how many times have you written an email, only to find that it contains a glaring mistake (or several) only after you’ve clicked the “send” button? Even though I’m a professional writer, I too, am guilty of poor self-editing. That’s why my book club suggestion for this Enews is a slim “how-to” called: Write it Right. The Ground Rules for Self-Editing Like The Pros (Cameo Publications, 2005) Self-editing experts Dawn Josephson and Lauren Hidden provide a simple, five-step process for self-editing that is highly effective. They also discuss how to overcome the most common writing challenges that plague writers. The advice could be as dry as a fifth grade grammar book, but the authors have risen to the challenge and present their words in a fast-paced fashion. The 144-page book could take you less than an hour to read, but several weeks to months to master the suggested editing process. This book is a must-have, whether you simply send emails to keep in touch, or write and edit more significant works. Buy the book online at Barnes&Noble or Amazon.com.
How To Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis by Gay Courter & Pat Gaudette
Another “How-To” that recently arrrived in my mailbox is How To Survive Your Husband’s Midlife Crisis by Gay Courter & Pat Gaudette, founders of the Midlife Wives Club www.midlifewivesclub.com (Perigee Books; 1st edition, 2003) . There are many books that have been written on menopause and mid-life issues for women, but this book provides an understanding of what a male midlife crisis is like incuding why it happens, and what you can do about it to help yourself, and that special someone close to you, to get through it. There is a lot of helpful information in this 255-page book. My only real complaint is that the book paints what I think is an overly-pessimistic view of the future for couples dealing with a male midlife crisis. Many of the stories, if not all, are taken from postings by women who have sought support on the bulletin board on the author’s website. Those who post are often already separated or divorced (or clearly heading that way) because their husband/significant other, has “strayed.” It is important to note that while many relationships definitely are strained or completely destroyed by male midlife issues, plenty of other coupls for through a midlife crisis (his and/or hers) without going “crazy” or having affairs or wrecking their relationships. Still, the book has many good qualities and information that can help a neophyte to figure out what to do next. I particularly liked the comparison of “his depression” vs. “her depression.” This is an easy, quick read that can help women and the men that they love to recognize the symptoms of a male midlife crisis, cope with the threat (or reality) of the situation, identify problems, deal with bad behavior (eg. thrill-seeking, financial irresponsibility, substance abuse, verbal or physical hostility), and figure out the next steps to take, including how to forgive and move forward again.
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